Are BIG FEELINGS normal?
Yes, everyone experiences BIG FEELINGS - even emotionally mature adults! Typically BIG FEELINGS are bigger and more prevalent in the world of children usually as a reaction to dread, stressor disappointment. So, first up, let's normalize these BIG FEELINGS by seeing them as frustrated feelings accompanied by compensating behaviours. These compensating behaviours can be expressed as anger, aggression, anxiety, avoidance, shyness, withdrawal, shame, running away, tearfulness, sadness, despair and so many more!
How do BIG FEELINGS and tricky compensating behaviours work together?
As children start to grasp the social and emotional worlds of school and home, there's a tendency for them to impulsively use anger as a defence against any kind of emotional threat or risk. On one hand, anger can be used by all individuals, at any age, to simply get their way. Equally, anxious and fearful children can flip into anger as protection against what they perceive as a threat.
Is some anxiety in my child alright?
Just as we worry, children worry. Normally, it is seen as a reassuring sign that their development is on track as worry is a useful means to plan, sort, prioritise, unravel problems and cope with life's experiences. However, too much anxiety, too often stops children from getting the most out of life. Too much anxiety causes children to miss school, miss social activities and miss out on night after night of sleep just because of the troublesome thoughts in their head.
Can I really coach my child to better manage their BIG FEELINGS?
Many parents feel helpless as they witness their child acting out their BIG FEELINGS, inaptly, day in and day out. Sometimes, from a place of love, parents unintentionally use strategies that feed and strengthen their child's strong and distressing emotional responses. There isn't a 'one-size-fits-all' solution to address the array of BIG FEELINGS, but there is a wide selection of great research-based techniques that can help manage it.
Learning to manage all kinds of BIG FEELINGS starts with coaching kids to identify the feeling they're experiencing and developing tools to calm down and express feelings and thoughts. The truth is that most of these coping skills are simple to learn, easy to use and effective over time. It is possible is to teach all kids how to cope better with their BIG FEELINGS and bring more emotional steadiness and happiness in their lives.
Will this workshop give me ideas that are 'real' and I can start using straight away?
Mark promises to bring a wealth of totally practical ideas to show parents how to coach their children to tame their BIG frustrated FEELINGS. This workshop invests in you so you can empower your children!
Come along, take these tips home and confidently start coaching right away!