What sort of friend are you?
Most students think thereís little they can do to stop the bully, or a group of students demonstrating mean behaviours, without risking becoming a target or losing their own status in the group.
But really, thereís a lot YOU can do to become a better friend to everyone.
The first step is to understand what roles you may be playing in your group of friends. Take the following quiz and find out!
The quiz will help you to find out:
- What role you play in your group of friends
- Think more about your behaviour in the last week
Circle the number at the beginning of each question if you have done them over the last week:
Chances are you have used some of these behaviours in the past week.
- Called other kids names that make fun of them?
- Said something about someone else that you knew wasnít nice?
- Walked away when your friends started talking Ďbadlyí about someone else you know?
- Laughed when someone else made fun of another student?
- Wrote a note or graffiti about someone else that wasnít nice?
- Felt put down by someone, but not spoken up about it?
- Asked your friends to stop talking about another friend who wasnít there?
- Let someone else talk you into doing something you didnít really want to do?
- Refused to talk to someone so it would upset them?
- Invited a new student to sit with your crowd at lunch?
- Repeated a rumor you heard about someone?
- Started a rumor about a student who was mean to someone else?
- Made fun of another personís clothes, hair or appearance?
- Stood up for another student your friends were making fun of?
- Sent an email or text message to someone that said something negative you wouldnít say in person?
- Been a target of a rumor?
- Threatened someone because they made you mad?
- Gone to sit with someone who was by themselves and sad?
- Listened to gossip about another student?
- Received text messages or messages in a chat room that hurt your feelings?
- Tried to be with a group of students and been told you couldnít?
- Excluded someone to make them feel bad?
- Cried or felt sad because or something mean another person did to you?
- Helped another student with their homework, even though your friends say that they are stupid and will never be able to understand the assignment?
- Made a new friend?
- Been part of a crowd of students who watched as Ďthe leader of the groupí made fun of another student?
- Deliberately done something you knew would hurt someone?
- something that belonged to someone else?
- Wanted to speak up and defend another person, but didnít because you were afraid?
- Had to sit by yourself in class because your friends decided to move away from you?
- Complimented someone you donít know very well on something they did?
- Tried to convince others to be mean to someone or to ignore them?
- Done something to embarrass someone you donít like?
- Threatened not to be friends with someone if they didnít do what you wanted them to?
- Stayed and watched a person who was being mean to another?
- Dared someone to do something they didnít want to?
- Insulted someone verbally because they looked at you the wrong way?
- Wrote something unkind about a student you donít like in a public place?
- Called a student you donít like an unkind name when they couldnít hear you?
- Listened in when a friend was mean to another boy but later tried to make him feel better?
- Made up something to get someone into trouble?
- Given a friend a compliment?
- Teased a boy or a girl you know very well?
- Deliberately ignored a student you donít like when they said hi to you?
- Stayed friends with someone because you were afraid of what they would do if you didnít?
- Been teased by someone else about the way you look or something you did?
- Excluded someone from your group because your friends told you to?
- Looked or gestured at someone in a way meant to hurt or insult them?
- Been in a chat room, but not participated, when someone you know got insulted by your friends?
- Forgiven a friend who hurt your feelings?
Finally, look back over the survey and circle below the numbers you circled in the survey.
This will give you a better understanding about the behaviours you draw on the most.
1, 2, 5, 9, 11, 12, 13, 15, 17, 22, 27, 28, 32, 33, 34, 36, 37, 38, 41, 43, 48
Bystander behaviours that usually support aggression:
4, 19, 26, 29, 35, 40, 47, 49
Behaviours usually seen in a victim:
6, 8, 16, 20, 21, 23, 30, 45, 46
'Power' behaviours Ė Congratulations!
3, 7, 10, 18, 24, 25, 31, 42, 50