Presentation 12:
THE "ART" OF USING EMOTIONALLY CONNECTING LANGUAGE PATTERNS WITH OUR KIDS, ESPECIALLY DURING TRICKIER TIMES!
Once upon a time, it was usual for parents and teachers to behave poorly towards children to get improvements in attitude, achievement or behaviour. It wasn't until 1990 that new Australian legislation saw public schools ban the practice of hitting and hurting children to discipline.
Yet, verbal and emotional unkindness remain high on the agenda for too many adults as they attempt to manage the wayward behaviour of children without smacking. I think the 'art' of developing truly constructive language patterns is one of the final frontiers for those of us who manage young people – whether it be at school or at home.
- How about you?
- When you must discipline or redirect the kids, how do you do it?
- Have you developed a language style that does not hurt, personalise, shame or humiliate the kids?
- How conscious are you about your style, your actions and your words, and the impact they have?
- Are you able to step aside from your own emotion when problems occur?
- Are you able to use words (not too many) that truly assist in a resolution?
- Are you aware of your personal style?
- Is it something you've deliberately polished?
In this session, let's review, practice and embed a more constructive language pattern so we can take it home to advantage our kids, and our relationships with them. This session is practical and focuses on making language transformations from negative scripts to far more positive scripts. These are especially useful in the trickier times when we must directly manage our children. Strange as it may seem, we can still hold high expectations and hold children accountable without anger, intimidation, shame or revenge. I promise this to be fun, useful and enlightening!